Mum, can we go to the f****** park?

Posted on 4th June 2011 in bad parent/ park/ swearing

We are very lucky to have recently had 2 new parks built in our town. They are wonderfully well equipped, easy to access and, of course, free.

Sounds good huh. Well in general it is, the kids love the exciting new bits of kit: sunken trampoline, zip wire, climbing wall, assault course etc. I love seeing them running around and getting some much needed exercise while they play.

The other evening we went to one of the parks, I was packed with a flask of freshly made coffee and some indulgent biscuits and the boys were stuffed with pent up energy. I found a bench and they found a set of swingy things that all swing towards each other in the middle and yet somehow don’t hit, it was all good.

So, I poured some coffee and commenced biscuit munching when I heard a small child say:

“Mummy can you push me?” I looked up to see a 3/4 year old boy on one of the swings, he was wearing a grubby spiderman suit and I exchanged a glance with my OH and remembered fondly the days when one of my boys refused to wear anything other than his spidey suit.


And then the boys mum, who was swinging really, really high at the time said:

“No I f****** can’t you’ll ruin your f****** trainers you little s***.”

Honest to god. Word for word.

Worst thing was the little boy didn’t flinch, didn’t seem in the least bit phased. My two boys literally stopped swinging in mid air and their faces registered shock as they both turned to look at me in disbelief.

The little boy then got off the swing as he clearly hadn’t ever been taught to swing and she certainly wasn’t going to push him. This put him right in the path of the other swings and I felt myself tense as I prepared to run and grab him, but it was ok, she had it covered. “No, f****** stay there you stupid f****** s***!” she screamed as she carried on swinging.

My boys came over to me “Did you hear what that mummy said?” they asked in hushed voices.

We moved further down the park and the little boy played near us for 30-40 minutes while she bounced on the trampoline, pausing only to bellow “of course I can do a f****** back flip you c***” at her boyfriend.

Fortunately, it started raining which gave us an excuse to take the boys home. As we walked back to the car one of them said to me “I’m glad you don’t swear at us.”

As much as I did momentarily think to myself that actually I’m not that bad a parent, the over riding thought I had was that the little boy didn’t really stand a chance in life.

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  • Reply Tom Smith 4th June 2011 at 4:11 pm

    Wow, simply wow.

    That’s my worst nightmare, just how can you deal with that without depriving your boys?

    They say two things affect our upbringing, nature and nurture, and I fear people like this don’t stand a hope without either.


    • Reply CoffeeCurls 4th June 2011 at 4:16 pm

      I know, it was awful. I felt as though I should have done something but obviously confronting her would only have made things worse – I sat and wished there was a 999 version of the nspcc!

  • Reply Paula Dallison 4th June 2011 at 4:31 pm

    That breaks my heart. Poor little lad should be cherished not ignored and sworn at. Let’s pray he manages to have a good life in spite of, and to spite, his mother.

  • Reply Drew Parky 4th June 2011 at 5:06 pm

    Oh. My. Goodness.

    This to me is a very strong subject matter that isn’t taken seriously enough. I hate swear words – with a passion – and people who are close to me know this. Even as an adult, I don’t think there is any need for them in any conversation. So to say what that woman did in front of her child (and in close proximity to other children) is appalling and makes me cringe to the core. The trouble is, I live in an area where this is common place and I have heard many young children swearing so openly to each other. This breaks my heart to know that children so young can say such ugly words and have not been taught a more correct way to speak to each other.

    Why is swearing so common place and so freely used? Like you said, some children really don’t stand a chance do they. :(


    • Reply CoffeeCurls 4th June 2011 at 5:12 pm

      So true Parky, it was just horrible to witness. That little boy must be so used to her swearing at him and she did it so openly that she can’t know it was wrong either – I’m not sure which of those is worse.

      Thank you for your heartfelt comment – am fast coming to the conclusion that there just aren’t enough people like you in the world :)

  • Reply rugbymadsdad 5th June 2011 at 9:18 am

    Take a step back and stop the swearing on the television anytime of the day….but i fear the mother does not realize she is using these words as they are just so common place today. You hear people like this everywhere and it upsets me there is no need to swear so why do it.

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