This meme was created by over at More Than A Mum as a way of celebrating motherhood in the run up to Mother’s Day.
I have been tagged for this meme by the lovely Kate from Makeshift Mummy. The only person in the world I’ve ever had to tell that I don’t own a horse. Bless her :o)
Q1. Describe Motherhood in three words.
So. Much. Love.
Q2. Does your experience differ from your Mother’s – how?
I think this is the hardest question of them all for me to answer. In some ways I guess they’ve been similar as we’ve both been single mother’s. But we’ve both dealt with it very differently and I think we all try to learn from what we perceive to be our parents mistakes.
Q3. What’s the hardest thing about being a mum?
The fear you feel when they are ill, or when you momentarily lose sight of them, is heart stopping.
There is also a constant battle between wanting to shower them with everything they ask for and knowing that you will teach them more about life and the differences between want and need by sometimes saying no.
Q4. What’s the best thing?
Kate’s answer “All of it” was so spot on. Sounds twee but every experience is amazing in it’s own way, even the bad times!
The pride you feel when your child does something of their own volition. When they suddenly smile at you. When they share without being asked. When they tell you they love you without any prompting. When they confide in you. When you share a moment because you both ‘get’ something and you realise how much you genuinely have in common. When they reach out to you for a cuddle or to hold your hand; just because they want to.
Q5. How has it changed you?
It made me find a selflessness that I didn’t know I had. I would do anything for my children. I would lay down my life in a moment to save either of them.
Q6. What do you hope for your children?
I hope they learn to be happy with themselves and not require external validation. I summed this up in one of my favourite ever posts, called My Legacy.
Q7. What do you fear for them?
Oh god, everything! I want to be able to protect them from every mistake I ever made even though I know it’s not possible.
Q8. What makes it all worthwhile?
They do. Seeing them smile. Seeing them be friends with each other. Watching them grow into their own personalities and make their own footprints on the world.
I won’t tag anyone else as Mother’s Day has passed – but it’s a nice meme to do so I would invite anyone who wants to do it to consider themselves tagged by me and to go for it!
I was a bit thrown by The Gallery prompt of ‘My Backyard’ as my garden isn’t anything special and I know a lot of you guys have wonderfully planted, loved and tended to gardens that will lend themselves beautifully to artful photography.
Then I thought about what my backyard means to me; a place of sanctuary? No. A place of noisy and boisterous play? Yes! My backyard is all about the 2 boys who play in it, who bounce on that trampoline in a way that stops my heart as I anticipate bad landings and trips to A&E, who trample my plants because they are too busy avoiding imaginary attacks from LEGO warships and who care not that the grass is worn.
Superheroes play in my backyard.
I love your face
Your smiling eyes
Your bottomless heart
Your beautiful soul
I love you for your courage
For the depths to which you care
I love that you have compassion
And that there’s nothing you wont share
I love that I believe you
Without question, without doubt
I love that you believe in me
It feels like you know me inside and out
I love your patience, and understanding
The depth of your kindness, no matter what
I love that you seem unbreakable
Even though I know you’re not
I love your gentlessness
Which is only rivalled by your strength
I love your sense of rightness
And that you talk nothing to me at length
I love your optimism
That because you want to, you believe
I love your generosity
That you give not to receive
Your friendship is an honour
And I hope this little blog will show you
You are the kindest soul I’ve ever met
And it humbles me to know you