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Mother’s Day Meme

Posted on 21st March 2012 in children/ love/ meme/ Mother/ mother's day

This meme was created by over at More Than A Mum as a way of celebrating motherhood in the run up to Mother’s Day.

I have been tagged for this meme by the lovely Kate from Makeshift Mummy. The only person in the world I’ve ever had to tell that I don’t own a horse. Bless her :o)

Q1. Describe Motherhood in three words.

So. Much. Love.

Q2. Does your experience differ from your Mother’s – how?

I think this is the hardest question of them all for me to answer. In some ways I guess they’ve been similar as we’ve both been single mother’s. But we’ve both dealt with it very differently and I think we all try to learn from what we perceive to be our parents mistakes.

Q3. What’s the hardest thing about being a mum? 

The fear.

The fear you feel when they are ill, or when you momentarily lose sight of them, is heart stopping.

There is also a constant battle between wanting to shower them with everything they ask for and knowing that you will teach them more about life and the differences between want and need by sometimes saying no.

Q4. What’s the best thing?

Kate’s answer “All of it” was so spot on. Sounds twee but every experience is amazing in it’s own way, even the bad times!

The pride you feel when your child does something of their own volition. When they suddenly smile at you. When they share without being asked. When they tell you they love you without any prompting. When they confide in you. When you share a moment because you both ‘get’ something and you realise how much you genuinely have in common.  When they reach out to you for a cuddle or to hold your hand; just because they want to.

Q5. How has it changed you?

It made me find a selflessness that I didn’t know I had. I would do anything for my children. I would lay down my life in a moment to save either of them.

Q6. What do you hope for your children?

I hope they learn to be happy with themselves and not require external validation. I summed this up in one of my favourite ever posts, called My Legacy.

Q7. What do you fear for them?

Oh god, everything! I want to be able to protect them from every mistake I ever made even though I know it’s not possible.

Q8. What makes it all worthwhile?

They do. Seeing them smile. Seeing them be friends with each other. Watching them grow into their own personalities and make their own footprints on the world.

 

I won’t tag anyone else as Mother’s Day has passed – but it’s a nice meme to do so I would invite anyone who wants to do it to consider themselves tagged by me and to go for it!

Important Discoveries

Posted on 4th November 2011 in Important Discoveries

Washing Up – no matter how long you leave it, it will not do itself

Bluebottles – never signify anything good

Cats – no matter how many beds, towels, designated throws you provide; they will only sleep on your clean laundry

Laundry – must be related to washing up as it will also not do itself

‘Nothing tastes as good as slim feels’ – is a lie

Cats – if you obstruct your clean laundry, they will sleep on your pillow

Coffee – real coffee that is, smells sooooo good

True Love – if you find it, hold on tight

Beetroot – is awesome

Sweetfire beetroot – could change your life

Kittens – are actually the cutest, most awwwww inspiring thing on god’s green earth

Wine – the sound of cold, dry, white wine being poured has to be one of the best sounds in the world

Unfiled post – multiplies (by 10 every 4 hours) when left unattended

Waiting in for a parcel – can slow time, physicists should look into this

Cats – are better than dogs *hides behind sofa from dog owners*

Handwritten letters – I miss them

Unexpected heartfelt #FFs – give you a warm fuzzy feeling

Trees – are bloody great, I love them

Wasps – are shite

House Hippos – I wish they were real

Cats – also like sleeping in really small boxes

A good book – can lift your soul

A bad book – is like a personal insult

Bees – need protecting, buy a bee box, buy some bee friendly flowers

Grey hairs – do not multiply if you pull them out

Grey hairs – do multiply as soon as you notice them, they just like attention

Full English Breakfast – if cooked right is one of the most satisfying things you can eat

Fruit – meh

Finally a quote, I don’t know who it is by but I think it’s one of the truest things I’ve ever read:

Love isn’t the person you can see yourself with, it’s the one person you can’t see yourself without

My Legacy

Posted on 4th May 2011 in advice/ legacy/ pride/ validation

My boys

Just been thinking, if I could only pick one thing to pass on to my boys – what would it be?

Just one thing. One piece of information, one trait, or one word of advice.

It would be:

Don’t require validation.

Sure, I hope they’ll be happy, healthy, wealthy and loved.

I hope they’ll be clever, get good jobs and be a success.

I hope they’ll find true love and be surrounded by friends and laughter.

I hope they’ll be good people who make me proud.

But.

I think if they can learn to love who they are, irrespective of the approval of others, then the rest will fall into place.

I want them to like what they like, because they like it, not because it’s cool.

I want them to act how they like, to be carefree and go with their instincts.

I want them to love freely. And if that person doesn’t love them back, I want them to be able to let go and know that they are worth loving and not to waste their tears on someone who can’t see that.

My boys are amazing. They make me so proud, every day.

I want them to know that, but not need to know that. To be happy in their own skin and love themselves for everything they are and everything that they will be.

 

Reasons Why I Love You

Posted on 22nd February 2011 in love

I love your face
Your smiling eyes
Your bottomless heart
Your beautiful soul

I love you for your courage
For the depths to which you care
I love that you have compassion
And that there’s nothing you wont share

I love that I believe you
Without question, without doubt
I love that you believe in me
It feels like you know me inside and out

I love your patience, and understanding
The depth of your kindness, no matter what
I love that you seem unbreakable
Even though I know you’re not

I love your gentlessness
Which is only rivalled by your strength
I love your sense of rightness
And that you talk nothing to me at length

I love your optimism
That because you want to, you believe
I love your generosity
That you give not to receive

Your friendship is an honour
And I hope this little blog will show you
You are the kindest soul I’ve ever met
And it humbles me to know you

by CoffeeCurls

Happy Birthday DS1

Posted on 21st December 2010 in birth/ birthday/ child/ diabetes/ fainting/ family/ gestational diabetes/ pregnancy/ SCBU/ shadow of the moon

Happy Birthday DS1

My boy is 11 – 22nd Dec, officially at 10.12pm – but he assures me it’s ok to have presents in the  morning!

My boy is wonderful, I know we all love our children but he really is! He has a depth of maturity that still shocks me, yet he has a playful sense of humour and is a happy, sunny boy.

He is clever (cleverer than me most of the time), he questions things that I just take for granted and seems to have an unquenchable thirst for knowledge. Yet he isn’t superior or smug, he is gentle and self effacing. It was he who prompted my post about the shadow on the moon – a question he asked at age 5.

He likes reading, drawing, building amazing things from LEGO, making paper aeroplanes (often balancing them on one side to ensure they fly how he wants), playing DS/PS3/Wii games, watching The Simpsons, comedy in general and CHOCOLATE!

He is also a complete pedant, which I just adore.

I did good with that boy :) *beams with pride*

 

His life didn’t start smoothly, the birth ‘went wrong’, after finding out late that I had Gestational Diabetes they decided to induce me on my due date. I clearly wasn’t ready to give birth and despite them trying 3 times to induce me Monday, 3 more times Tuesday and a membrane sweep first thing Wednesday, there was still no action! I was 3 cm dilated by Monday night and pretty much stayed there.

Wednesday ended for me as he was placed in my arms and the last thing I remember is someone shouting “She’s 80 over 50″

I didn’t see my son again until the Friday afternoon, Christmas Eve.

I’d lost so much blood that I couldn’t sit up without passing out. For my own reasons I refused a blood transfusion. Because of the diabetes DS1 had been taken straight down to SCBU, then because I was ill they kept him down there.

I did try and get down there once (2 floors away, might as well have been on Mars) but I passed out.

I can remember laying on the ward, the only ‘mother’ there who didn’t have a baby. I felt so confused. So alone. It was like I was being punished. Until on the Friday afternoon a nurse breezed in and said jokingly “oh haven’t you got a baby?” and I said “I don’t know.”

She was horrified that I hadn’t been taken to see him, she was horrified that no one had given me a photo of him.

When my husband (who had been down to see the baby every day) showed up, she was with him, with a photo and a wheel chair and I finally got taken to see him. Sitting upright that long was a struggle, but it was worth it.

He looked a bit of a fraud in SCBU though – at 8lb13 he looked big enough to eat the other babies!

I was terrified that the separation would affect how I felt about him. Or how he felt about me. But it didn’t. I love him so much, I’m so proud of who he is and I’m so proud of who he’ll become.

Endless Love #TheGallery #Blogladesh

Posted on 29th August 2010 in #thegallery/ 29 August 2010/ beach/ blogladesh/ endless love/ Mersea

Took the boys to Mersea beach on Sunday 29th August – camera in my bag ready to take a nice family snap for my entry into #TheGallery this week.

I did take some nice photo’s of the boys, but the photo I am entering instead is one I took of 2 complete strangers. It was VERY cold on the beach, the wind was blowing a gale and there was lots of rain in the air (we were wearing wellies, jeans and hoodies!). As I turned my face away from yet another sand swirl I spotted 2 people gingerly making their way down the beach. They had bare legs and feet and held hands as they walked across the stones.

This picture was taken on ‘one day in august’ when participating mummy bloggers (and daddy bloggers) ALL took a photo on the 29th August 2010 in support of the mission #Blogadesh

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